Before any of my female relatives, who may be reading this, become overly excited: I AM NOT PREGNANT.
That being said, the one thought consuming my precious cognitive resources these days (other than trying to plan a trip for 3 to the UK) has been motherhood. The one "New Years resolution" I have not made public is our plan to have a baby. Clearly, this is not something written in stone:
Thou shalt conceive on 10 october 2005. But, it was within the "5-year plan" BJ and I chatted about shortly after we got married. You know, first I would finish grad school, then get a job, then buy a house, then have a baby. And, at the time, we threw out 05-06 because, of course, my pregnancy has to coincide with the school year for maximum bonding time. And, here we are. I am absolutely flipped--all on the inside, but flipped nonetheless.
Don't get me wrong--it's not that I don't feel ready. Who could ever
really feel ready? Nor do I feel any pressure that it
needs to be this year. It's time (or almost--a March conception doesn't fit with the plan)!
In fact, I have full-on baby lust. When I see children, I want one. When I see pregnant women--and they are
everywhere, who is inseminating you?--I want to be one. I can't wait to see BJ as a father and I smile every time I see him playing with his cousins or friends' kids. I can't wait to see our child. But, I'm still flipping out.
I think it's because I'll be the first. BJ and I are the oldest kids in our respective families; we don't have any neices or nephews. I don't really have any friends with kids. There are a few sorority sisters whom I haven't seen in ages, much less their offspring, so I don't think it counts. None of my friends have children, and the vast majority aren't even thinking about it. I don't have anyone with whom to commiserate! Or, at least, I didn't.
This is the point when I realized that nearly all the blogs I frequent are written by mothers in varying stages of motherhood. I eat this stuff up! Yeah, I could talk to my mom (and I do!) or older friends/relatives, but there's something missing. I guess it's the newness or freshness of it all. (Don't take this the wrong way, mom) My mom talks about how she loved being pregnant--really? All the time?
So, thank you to all who came before. Thank you for sharing that you are/were freaking out. Thank you for answering questions I didn't even know I had. Thank you for making me feel even more anxious but even more excited. Your frankness can never be repaid. I can only offer links.
And, to my devoted readers/lurkers (you know who you are--ha!): In the words of Samuel L. Jackson
(Jurassic Park) "Hold on to you butts"--I think I've found my outlet.